One subject which has, to my great alarm, become more and more prominently discussed in casual conversation within my house of late, is that of arranged marriage. It is for no particular purpose, as far as I know, save for the testing of that unproven theory that obscure controversial subjects provoke deep discussion. I find no personal enjoyment in either the concept or the discussion thereof. It does, however, go a great way toward revealing a person’s goals, their attitude toward certain pertinent subjects, and the depth of their personal study.
I do not pretend to have looked at the topic overmuch; I can make no defense for this; and I will make no promises as to my looking into it in the near future, unless I feel earnestly led in that direction.
However, to make a few trifling remarks, I offer that it might be helpful to look at our view of marraige. Once a good friend of mine, whom I attempt to paraphrase, with fear of misrepresentation, made the remark that she could not be led to marry unless she were very much in love. I appreciated her statement, for I believe I would not marry with less. Not for purposes of the will, but because by today’s standards it happens pretty easily.
Have our views of marital bliss been propagated by romance?
Perhaps where the slip comes, and I speak as a fool, is in our idea that marriage was made for our happiness. While that is perhaps an element of necessity, it is my belief that the main pupose is holiness, and conformity to the image of Christ. It may even be more looked forward to with such a view, especially for young people. Yet, i would not take this to the extreme that our dear Wesley did; and I would be the first to say the I have much to learn. But I think it’s beautiful nonetheless, and I trust that as Christians, by grace, in sickness and in health, might in some small measure live to fulfill all the good pleasure of God through this institution.
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